Kiss and Make up?

others the message you convey is directly affected by your attitude to the circumstances you are in and the way you perceive the person you are communicating with.

I always focus on the postive aspects of the location I am in and the people I am interacting with, my positive mental attitude to others has often helped my defuse an emotive situation. If you find yourself in a position in life where you can see conflict is about to occur think about the issue in hand from both sides and put forward the positive aspects of both parties views.

Often when you display a positive mental attitude towards the way they are behaving the conflict will gradually subside as each individual starts to see the other persons point of view. There is a lot of truth in the saying try standing in the other persons shoes, it really does help to diffuse conflict.

It makes no difference where you are a positive mental attitude can and will help you get through it even in hospital. It is a well documented fact that people who have been diagnosed with a terminal illness and treated as though they were about to die have deteriorated over time and died. Not just on one occassion there are many instances, sometimes when the post mortem is carried out the diagnosis was wrong, there was nothing wrong with the patient except that had a negative mental attitude and believed they would die;

I am king

Take note as this is the power of the mind, a negative attitude can and does have the opposite effect of a positive mental attitude.

Paul Palmer

Live life the way you believe it should be and it will happen just for you; if you have a positive mental attitude, anything is possible

Power of The Mind

Unfortunately the primary test utilised is the IQ test which is more a test of knowledge rather than intelligence.

Many people rely on the tests and I believe the intention of intelligence testing is to show how likely a person is to be able to succeed in either their learning ability or a particular job role. There is however an issue with most IQ tests since they test a persons knowledge often in an area which is not ubiquitously taught throughout the community.

This means that when you think of intelligence testing you must also think about the individual who is taking the test, bearing this in mind how can human resource departments have a bank of tests which they use to test potential employees when they don’t know the employee. Similarly when a teacher has a new class and uses an intelligence test to define what stream or category a pupil fits into.

IQ Testing a Science?

The resultant effect makes the usefulness of intelligence testing questionable since pupils fail to reach their full potential because they are told they are not good enough and potential employees, who don’t know about the subject matter of the test are told they are of a lower and sometimes higher intelligence than required . It is very dangerous to use this information isolation since it can result in the wrong decision being made.

Paul Palmer

Why do you help others? Think for a while do you have your own reason to help someone or do you just do it because you can. It can be really difficult to get truly independent help that is not going to want something back in return.

I have a full time job myself, but unfortunately recently my wife and I decided it was time for us to go our separate ways. She moved out and I needed help, independent help that would not place additional demands on me as its hard enough anyway coping with 3 sons. I joined plenty of fish a free dating site on the recommendation of a woman who was working for me and had a little fun.

It took me some time to come to terms with the change when everything was thrown up in the air again I found out I was going to be made redundant, now I really needed that independent help but how? What would be the best way to move forward and cope with the changes in our lives

It’s not easy to decide when you are in this situation, so many people want something in return. I did get some independent help from parents of my youngest son’s friends, ideas about where I could go who I could get money from and suggestions for child care assistance. These people were a god send, I didn’t know where to run and their advice helped me look into the options available. Without them I probably would be very unhappy now struggling to cope and probably in the dole queue claiming on the mortgage insurance sinking into a deep depression.

Instead with the independent help I received I am living life to the full enjoying every day for what it holds and doing a job which allows me to spend more time with my three children than ever before.

Many people out there despise change they fear it, my experience has shown me I must embrace change as you never know what is round the next corner. I hope this inspires you in some way to do the same. I’m getting twitterpated at the moment, sign up on the right you’ll find it’s an excellent way to change your life.

Please leave a comment I’d love to hear about how you too have embraced change and benefitted from it, with or without independent help.

Paul Palmer

Never procrastinate, get on and do it, “You only live twice Mr Bond”

Think back to when you were young did you get told to eat your greens because they are good for you? Parents consider vegetables an essential part of their childrens healthy lifestyle but there is more to being healthy than food. Many people now go to work, both parents got to work and arrange child care. They want a better life for their children and provide all the physical ameneties, the care and the food but there is more to life than just the physical things we need.

Did you go to church as a child to develop your spiritual well being, I know I certainly did, but unfortunately society now does not lend itself well to regular attendance in church. This being the case we must find alternative approaches to living a healthy lifestyle. What is the alternative, everyone with children should look at how they can have good quality time with their children.

Quality time promotes your childrens healthy living so you must find a way to fit this into your lifestyle for your children to develop in a healthy way. You may think its impossible to spend time with your children. Are you too busy working or socialising maybe? Does your job take over your life preventing you from taking the time to be with those who should be the most important, your family.

Spend some time thinking about this as I did when I took my course with The Pacific Institute they taught me how to focus on the most important things in my life and what I should do to make sure I got them. Now I spend quality time with my children every day,  I’m not perfect, but then noone is, life would be boring if there were nothing to work towards.

The relationships we have in the world are what make us who we are.

Spread love in the world not hate.

Paul Palmer